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10 things I dislike about Christians

10 things I “dislike” about Christians..
These are my observations after 25 years of active involvement in the church, both in Thailand and in the US.  I have seen it from both sides of the ministry:  As an ordained evangelist and as a regular church member. As a victoriously redeemed saint, and as a shameful wretched sinner. If you are a Christian, then your personal experience might vary. Read it for what it’s worth, just my personal 2 cents.  You can agree, disagree.. Whatever.. Doesn’t matter..
1) Sometime we treat church as an exclusive social club.
To join our club, people need to walk like us and talk like us.  It’s almost like a requirement for membership. Is that what God called us to do ? Look at your own circle of friends. If we have only a few non-believing friends or none at all, then may be there is something wrong with the way we look at the mission. If all we do, is hang out with our Christian friends and nobody else, then aren’t we simply a social club ?  How are we different from any country clubs where like-minded people come together to enjoy social events and pat themselves in the back ?  This reminds me of a funny line I heard a doctor said on a TV show once:  “I would love to work at this hospital a lot more if there weren’t so many sick people around here”.

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10 things I “dislike” about Christians.. (Accredited to Nick Reagan, a “normal” person who loves the Lord Jesus, like me… Kongsak admin gracethai.com๗

These are my observations after 25 years of active involvement in the church, both in Thailand and in the US.  I have seen it from both sides of the ministry:  As an ordained evangelist and as a regular church member. As a victoriously redeemed saint, and as a shameful wretched sinner. If you are a Christian, then your personal experience might vary. Read it for what it’s worth, just my personal 2 cents.  You can agree, disagree.. Whatever.. Doesn’t matter..

1) Sometime we treat church as an exclusive social club. บางครั้งเราทำให้โบสถ์คริสตจักรเป็นเหมือนกับสมาคม

To join our club, people need to walk like us and talk like us.  It’s almost like a requirement for membership. Is that what God called us to do ? Look at your own circle of friends. If we have only a few non-believing friends or none at all, then may be there is something wrong with the way we look at the mission. If all we do, is hang out with our Christian friends and nobody else, then aren’t we simply a social club ?  How are we different from any country clubs where like-minded people come together to enjoy social events and pat themselves in the back ?  This reminds me of a funny line I heard a doctor said on a TV show once:  “I would love to work at this hospital a lot more if there weren’t so many sick people around here”.

2) We think salvation is ours to give. Is it ? เราคิดว่าความรอดเป็นของเราเพื่อให้แก่คนอื่น จริงๆแล้วเป็นอย่างนั้นหรือ?

Let me remind ourselves: We >>DON’T<< hold the key to the kingdom. Salvation is found in no man, no church, no creed, no organization, no one.. Salvation is found in no other names under heaven EXCEPT in CHRIST Jesus alone.  And because of that, it is in HIM and HIM alone, that our loyalty should lie. Our name is NOT Baptist, Methodist, Church of Christ, Presbyterian or whatever your organization defines you. Our Name, is “Christian”. We have no business making judgement on who God will or will not save. That’s not our job. Nor are we in the business of defining what is or is not the “true” church ? It is nothing but plain arrogance on our part to think differently.  Who are we to make a judgement on someone else’s servants ? Who died and made US Moses, the enlightened one ? If Christians spend half as much time worrying about our relationship with those outside the church, rather spending countless hours arguing and debating among ourselves, then imagine how much more we can accomplish on things that really matter.

3) We teach unconditional love. Well, sort of. เราสอนความรักที่ไม่มีเงื่อนไข อืออม ดูเหมือนจะแค่คล้ายๆอย่างนั้น

Yes, we say someone is not bound by the rules of men. True. But only until that someone becomes a member of our church, then we hit him/her over the head with a huge rule book: yes, OUR RULE BOOK. We demand that people conform to our codes and creeds, or else they can’t be part of “the family”. Do you befriend someone at church because they are who they are ? or because they are YOUR kind of Christian ? What is the motive ?  Is that “unconditional” love ? If God was patient with us, then why can’t we let HIM work on the others at his own pace ?  If people feel like they are walking on egg shells, so afraid that they might mess up, then is that freedom ?  How much does a person need to understand before they can receive Jesus as their personal Lord and Savior ? What exactly must a person do to be a child of God ?  Is it the ability to keep rules, or is it our faith that defines us as a child of God ?  If someone had missed church for a few weeks, a few months or even a few years, do you believe that he/she has “fallen away” ? If so, on what basis do you make that judgement ? If your child sits in jail instead of living at home, but still calls you mom or dad, then is he still your child ?  What exactly must that child do to earn your hug ? Are we in the undeniable, unshakable grasp of God, or is it up to us to hold on for dear life with our own feeble strength ? Which is it exactly ?

4) We treat righteousness like a police badge. เราทำให้ความชอบธรรมเหมือนกับตราเข็มตำรวจ

Please, please, please.. Don’t go around acting all righteous with all your non-believing friends. Don’t do it with anyone for that matter. Nobody likes it.  Not only do we turn people off, we lose our credibility as a buddy and friend when we do that.  Do you have any idea how irritating it is to sleep in the dark room and have someone come into the room and start shining flashlight in your face ?   How do you feel when people do that to you ?  So if someone asks you to go to a nightclub with them and you think it’s wrong, then instead of saying things like “I am a Christian, I don’t go to nightclubs”,  why not just simply say  “No thank you”.

5) We see stumps so we run to kick them and call it “stumble” (สะดุด) เมื่อเราเห็นตอเราเข้าไปเตะกระเด็นเพราะเราเรียกว่า ตัวสะดุด

Often Christians see things done a certain way in church that they don’t like or agree with. So they claim that the actions of others in the church might cause them to “stumble”. More time than not, this has nothing to do with any sins being committed in the church at all. It’s simply a manipulative effort by some, to get others in the church to change their behaviors or conform to their selfish views on biblically unrelated matters. In my opinion, this is not “stumbling”.  This is more like “stump kicking”.   เห็นตอ เลย เดินเข้าไป เตะ.. If you break your toes, then it’s your fault. You can’t blame anybody else.. Quit being a cry baby about everything.  If God wanted everybody to act like you and talk like you and think like you, then he would have made YOU the mold, instead of Jesus.  May be if you want people to be like you, then may be you should go set up your own  FACEBOOK fan club page or something.  People should NOT feel that they can’t come to church any more because it is such a big burden to live up to YOUR standard and keep YOU happy.

6) Talking like a Christian robot can make us sound like a Jesus freak. เราพูดเรื่องคริสเตียนแบบหุ่นยนตร์ทำให้เราดูเหมือนพวกบ้าพระเยซู

Ever heard about a kid who fell asleep in a Sunday bible class ? The teacher asked him a question. He woke up, and didn’t know what the question was, so he decided to blurt out one word: “Jesus”.  You see, in Sunday bible classes, it doesn’t matter what the question was, if you answer “Jesus”, you have a pretty decent chance of answering correctly.  While it all sounds good, unfortunately the people that we interact with everyday, don’t live in Sunday bible classes. They live in the world. They have problems in their lives. They don’t need you to push Jesus in their face.  So be a friend. Life is not about sitting in Sunday bible classes all day, listening to sermons. People have jobs to do, mouths to feed, family to take care of, bills to pay, marriage problems to work through. If someone has a teenage son sitting in jail on a drug charge, how relevant is Acts 2:38 really?  There is a place and a time for everything. And sometime “Jesus” is not always the right answer for the moment. The last thing they need to hear, is for some self-righteous people who know nothing about their lives and problems, telling them how clueless they are.

7) Remember this:

There are only 2 types of people in the world.  Believers and Non-believers. เราสอนให้จำไว้ว่า: มีคนอยูสองจำพวกเท่านั้นในโลกนี้ ผู้เชื่อและพวกไม่เชื่อ

Here is a shocker: >>BOTH<< are sinners. That probably come as a big surprise to some people in church. Just because Jesus washed you, that does not mean you are any more deserving of his grace than the other guy. Being righteous and being “CONSIDERED” righteous, have very different meaning. Christians, like all sinners, sin every day. We are only different than other sinners  in the sense that we do have a savior whose blood we have accepted to cleanse us of our daily sins. The length of time that we have been a Christian also has nothing to do with whether we sin more or sin less. If God does not differentiate between a liar and a murderer, a lustful person and an adulterer.. If sin is sin,  regardless of big or small, then does it really matter ?

8) If we don’t understand forgiveness, how do we even begin to talk about “redemption” ? เราไม่เข้าใจคำว่าการอภัยโทษ แล้วเราจะเร่ิมพูดเรื่องการไถ่ได้อย่างไร

Christians are the forgiven people. We are redeemed by God. If we do not understand anything else about God, we have to understand this. Why ? Because it is something that happened to us.  However, it is my observation that often Christians sometime has more trouble forgiving others than we should. If we claim to be his disciples and we don’t understand forgiveness, then what does that say about our theology ? Quit saying we are the child of God if we have problems forgiving others.

9) Don’t throw stones if you choose to  live in a glass house. อย่าปาหินเข้าไปในบ้านถ้าคุณเลือกที่จะอยู่ในบ้านกระจก

I have found that the ones who are quickest to point fingers at other people’s sins are usually the ones who had royally screwed up big time in their own past.  I have seen a tax cheat stood up in church to condemn a liar.  A preacher who has slept with whores and prostitutes, then physically point fingers at others to condemn them for divorce.  A gossiper who bad mouth someone who was a wife beater. Is that how it’s supposed to be ?  Did God forgive you ? If you have received forgiveness, why is it hard for you to give some back ?

10) Just keep it “real”, people.  จงเข้าใจมนุษย์ว่าเป็นคนเดินดิน คนธรรมดา

Most people are real. They live in the real world, facing real problems. We don’t live in a fantasy land. If we are going to relate to people, then WE too, have to be real.  Jesus did not sit in heaven to have a relationship with people. He CAME DOWN to earth to do that.  If the Master had to do that, then so do we.

YOU CAN QUOTE SCRIPTURES ALL YOU WANT..

NOBODY CARES HOW MUCH YOU KNOW, UNTIL THEY KNOW HOW MUCH YOU CARE.ดกด

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  • William the KHING

    Feb 20, 2011

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